What if old married couples have toxicity and not love?
“Just don’t tell that story again — no one wants to hear it!” — she said.
He instantly shut up, seeming uncomfortable and embarrassed but maintaining polite kindness towards her before exiting the room quickly.
A few moments later, he strolled in cheerfully and placed an ice-cold ginger ale next to her. Her favorite, I might add.
“Here you go, my love.” — he said.
She sighed in an annoyed tone and got a stony, almost hateful look in her eye as her body tensed slightly. …
“Just don’t think about it” is the biggest thief of our time and human experience.
I recently got into a conversation (as recent as yesterday) with someone who questioned my alcohol-free and “first, do no harm” approach to living.
I was minding my own business (well, mostly) and deeply engrossed in a conversation with someone seeking out tips for sober living when he interjected in a rather rude fashion.
It’s cool — I took no real offense. I blame the beer he was sucking back on all night, and we all know how that can trash our inhibitions (no hard…
How to spruce up your mood with soulful self-care
Bah humbug! That used to be me first thing in the morning. Let’s get real; some mornings are harder to wake up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed than others.
And for me, it became even harder when I decided to quit drinking, tussle with my anxiety disorder, and start writing full time. It’s like my mood did an about-turn, stared me hard in the eyes and said what the…
Now, several years later, after an epic battle with my mood and anxiety, I find myself starting each day “annoyingly chipper” — at least…
I remember being about ten years old when I was in line for an achievement certificate. I still have that certificate.
It sits in a file on my desk, and sometimes when I page through it looking for pertinent identity proof items, I see it and doff my proverbial hat. I almost respect that certificate because it sent me on one of the most epic (and I am talking epic in a bad way) experiences of my life.
At just ten years old, I already knew I didn’t entirely fit in. It wasn’t that I preferred playing cars over barbies…
Over the years as a counselor and self-help writer, I have become acutely aware of something: people generally misunderstand self-care.
When I say the word “self-care,” what comes to mind?
Most people think of bubble baths and facemasks. And while that forms part of self-care rituals and people walk around looking ultra-beautiful, it is not the be-all and end-all of the self-care concept. Self-care is so much more than that.
There are only so many bubble baths and foot scrubs you can indulge in before you have to say enough is enough, flee the bathtub, and find alternative ways to…
There have been a multitude of occasions where I wish I could take the sober girl or guy at a party to one side and say one simple sentence to them; “Your sobriety is inspiring.”
The timing of this sentence would, of course, be significant. Perhaps if I told them this little nugget of advice at just the right moment, they wouldn’t go back on their promise to themselves. They wouldn’t fold on their “no-booze” challenge. They wouldn’t break their promise to someone else. …
I have been thinking a lot lately about how alcohol has found its way into every crevice of society.
Last night, I talked to a lovely guy who admitted to me that he can’t attend a social event or spend time in a group unless he is drinking. It didn’t take long for my partner to pipe up, “Jesse can hold a full-on conversation absolutely sober, but I can’t!” I found it a pretty profound statement, especially that he so readily admitted it. What does this say about us as people?
I was genuinely surprised. I don’t drink, but it…
Just Another Down-to-Earth Humanoid: Self-Help Author, People Appreciator, Counselor, Tree-Hugger & Dog Snuggler
My name is Jesse, and I’m “that self-care girl.” What can I say? I have a thing for self-help, self-care, and talking to people about the things that hold them back from being who they want to be.
I am a counselor and a happiness activist but a realist too (I don’t expect anyone to be happy when they’re sad). I’ve been called a self-help guru from time to time and I quite like that. I have dreams of becoming some sort of self-growth oracle. You know…
Author of “The Art of Sober Self-Care.” People appreciator, counselor, liver of life, and self-care expert.